Do you believe in couples therapy?

Good morning Dinks. Let me ask you a question, have you ever been to couples therapy? You don’t have to answer out loud but I am just wondering how hard Dinks work on their marriage.  I keep reading about couples who take a vacation as a way to save their marriage and I am just wondering what kind of problem can be solved by a vacation.

Talking about conflict can help resolve the issue

I agree that sometimes it’s a good idea to just get out of our daily routine and get outside of our normal element as a way to refresh and recharge, but if you are not getting along with your spouse do you really want to be stuck with them in a hotel room in a foreign country? I am not so sure that is the solution.

Since we are all Dinks here maybe we can help each other out and share our personal stories to help other couples work through their tough times. No marriage is perfect and every relationship has their ups and downs but like my boyfriend Nick says if everything was lovey-dovey all the time our relationship would be boring.

Working through the issues as a couple

Nick and I don’t argue a lot but when we do it’s usually for the same reason and we most always find the same solutions, it’s almost as if it’s a part of our routine…every six months or so we disagree, we lose our tempers (really for no reason), we don’t talk for a few days and then we move past the issue.  Of course this doesn’t solve the problem or fix the issue in our relationship, but at 32 years old I don’t foresee a change in either one of our personalities in the near future.

I am not 100% convinced that couple’s therapy is a very effective method because not everyone is open to talking about their issues with their spouse while their spouse is sitting right next to them on the couch. So in an effort to keep this Dinks community alive and lower the rate of divorce let’s help each other work through our relationship issues. I call them issues because issues are just a little bump in the road whereas problems in a relationship may be a deal breaker.

If your couple’s issue is money

Very often people disagree about money in their relationship.  The way to work through money issues is to put personal views aside and just look at the bottom line.  How much money is being spent and why? If the purchase is worth the cost of the item or if you really need the item then you have to make an agreement as a couple if the money being spent is worth the value of the item.

If your couple’s issue is work

Dinks have been known to spend a few extra hours at the office and very often this habit creates friction in our relationships. We all want to exceed at our jobs but is working longer than 9 to 5 really worth our relationship? If you and your spouse argue about your hours at the office think about this, is it better to come home at 5 pm to your loving spouse or is it better to come home at 7 pm to no one?

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Kristina Tahnyak

Tahnya is a Certified Financial Planner and former Investment Advisor turned marketing and communications professional She holds a degree from Concordia University, is debt free and currently works in the field of digital marketing.