The evolution of your relationship

by Kristina Tahnyak on September 4, 2015 · 2 comments

Let me ask you, where are you in your relationship?  Some couples are just starting their journey together, some have moved in together and some are making the commitment to spend the rest of their lives together.  Couples are different at every stage of their relationships, some parts are good and some are bad.  So what’s been the best part of your relationship?

Yesterday morning on my way to work I was waiting on a corner to cross the street when I saw a couple in a fairly awkward position.  The man had the women cradled in his arms and although I couldn’t see her face I knew she was crying.

He completely had the woman surrounded in his body; his head was on top of hers (she was quite small) and his arms were draped around her like a blanket.  I thought to myself “I wonder what’s going on with this couple and I hope she’s alright.”

The early days you can’t live without

When the light turned green I crossed the street and walked by the couple to see that she wasn’t crying at all.  Actually they were engaged in quite a passionate kiss.  Ah I remember those early days – even though it’s been almost two decades since I had them.

Do you remember what it’s like to physically have your heart hurt when you’re away from someone you recently started dating?  This is where this couple was.  They were sharing an extremely emotional good-bye morning kiss before they each went off to work.  No one else mattered and they didn’t seem to be shy about their public display of affection.

Getting comfortable with each other

This was by far the favorite part of my relationship with Nick.  The part where you both are completely comfortable with each other.  You don’t mind if they see you in your pyjamas before you go to sleep or wake up with bed head first thing in the morning.

It’s the part of your relationship where the pressure to be beautiful and polite every single minute of the day wears off and you finally get to know each other for who you truly are.

The honeymoon phase

Admittedly I have no idea what it feels like to be married, but I’m sure it’s fantastic.  Come to think of it this is also a place where the couple might have been in their relationship.  Maybe they weren’t newly dating, maybe they were newlyweds and that morning was their first day back to work after their honeymoon.

The thought of spending any time away from each other was more bearable than they could handle and I think that’s kind of sweet.  It’s the feeling of never wanting to leave your love; the time in your relationship when you would walk an extra block out of your way just to be able to spend more time with your sweetheart.

Decades later and still happy

After sixteen years, no kids and no ring Nick and I are still together.  Our relationship is more functional than glamorous, but I wouldn’t change it for the world.  I love the feeling of being able to rely on someone for absolutely anything.  I also like knowing that no matter how awful my life may be at any particular moment and no matter what I’m dealing with I will always have someone waiting at home telling me it’s all going to be O.K.

And that my friends is better than any passionate kiss.

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1 Kathy September 4, 2015 at 11:10 am

Hubby and I are beyond 38 years of marriage and going strong. I actually think we are happier now than when younger because of fewer stresses due to work and childrearing. Looking forward to 38 more.

2 Star October 6, 2015 at 7:50 pm

Honestly, who wants to spend the rest of their life {for whoever knows how long that is} in a long term commitment that lacks passion, fire and shows no hope for coming out of retirement. If the heats not with you its with someone else or for someone else trust and believe that. I find it hard to believe that your content because your words sound as if your yearning and your heart burning for more of an commitment than what your relationshiph is presently giving you. Personally, I think that you have been cheated and you deserve more than a functional relationship after 16 long ass years.

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