Measuring Our Success

by Kristina on August 26, 2010 · 3 comments

Would you agree that Donald Trump and Warren Buffet are successful?  When we say that, what do we base it on?

In general, I believe that the majority of people determine how successful they are by the amount of money they have.  Is success always measured by money?

Success is relative to each individual person. Donald Trump may not consider me as a successful young woman.  However, I feel that with two university degrees, a long time career in finance, a newly launched online company (hopefully empire), and a stable relationship, I would consider myself successful.  I am glad not to be divorced two or three times, and I am happy to wake up every morning.

Personal happiness may be the measuring stick for success. If a person is content with their life and their family they could be considered successful.  Some people choose to focus on their family life as opposed to their career, and that is okay.  It wouldn’t be my personal choice to stay home, raise a family, and not focus on my career.  However, building a happy home can be the equivalent of building a successful business.

If someone is not well off, but they pay all of their bills on time, and they have a little bit of money in the bank, can society consider them successful? I would consider that as an individual success if that person’s personal goal is to live comfortably, not be too ambitious, and enjoy their everyday life.  As an individual I always need to have a goal, or a plan.  I like working towards something, and I like creating new things; it keeps me busy.  I am really not a “go with the flow” type of person.  Actually, uncertainly stresses me out.  Some DINKS may strive on stress.  However, I am not one of those people.

As DINKS we are all in relationships.  Would you consider your relationship as a success? I definitely consider the ten years of my relationship with my boyfriend Nick as a success.  Relationships take a lot of work.  If a relationship can sustain all of life’s ups and downs, and at the end of the day we come out on top, I do consider that as a successful relationship.

You know what they say “More Money More Problems.” Maybe success is not only measured by money. Success can be measured in a variety of other ways such as personal happiness, the strength of our relationships, and our family bonds.  With all of that being said….Are you successful?

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1 David Carlson August 26, 2010 at 9:08 am

“As an individual I always need to have a goal, or a plan. I like working towards something, and I like creating new things; it keeps me busy. I am really not a “go with the flow” type of person. Actually, uncertainly stresses me out.”

Yeah I’m definitely in the same boat as you! I’m always making a plan, moving towards the next goal.

I agree though that success is oftentimes measured by the amount of money someone has in the bank. But I also think we often refer to success as “business” success without actually saying that that is what we are referring to.

So do I think Donald Trump is successful? I think he is wildly successful (in monetary terms)! Has his relationships always been succesful? No.

2 Kristina August 28, 2010 at 10:25 pm

There is too much focus on money. The higher we climb on the corporate pyramid the less space there is, and the longer the fall. Sometimes I think it may be better to make less money and have less stress at work. Work is not who we are, it’s what we do.

3 50plusfinance August 29, 2010 at 12:31 pm

Measuring success by the amount of money you have is wrong. I just wrote a post about another way to determine success. Earl Nightingale said it’s the “Progressive realization of a worthy ideal”. A true success is “Doing the job you choose to do deliberately”. Both of these has nothing to do with wealth. It’s having a goal and fulfilling it the rest of your life. It’s a mature way of seeing your true fulfillment and happiness. Money is fleeting , true success is measured on the inside, in your heart.

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