Why I Love Being a DINK

by Kristina on April 10, 2012 · 7 comments

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Good Morning DINKS.  Let me ask you a question, what do you love about being a DINK? Is it the fact that you have extra free time to focus on your career and relationships since you don’t have kids? Or is it the fact that you have the freedom to do things that families with kids may otherwise not be able to do?

I love being a DINK because I like having the support of my boyfriend. I like knowing that I have someone to come home to, even though sometimes I just want to be alone. I like knowing that I can rely on someone else in case I am ever in an unmanageable situation, even though I am mostly independent. I also like knowing that I have someone to talk with when I am making a big decision, even though my boyfriend very often remains neutral because he hates drama.

Why Do You Love Being in a Dual Income No Kids Relationship?

1. We Can Share the Expenses.  Having two incomes in a relationship is definitely a financial benefit because all of our regular expenses are cut in half. If one spouse ever looses their job it can be a very scary situation, however there is comfort in knowing that our spouse can pay the expenses temporarily until we find another job.

2. We Can Both Contribute Towards Savings.  If we are saving up for a major purchase such as a vacation, new appliances, a new car, or even a new home we can achieve our savings goals in half of the time because we have two incomes contributing towards the savings. We will still eventually achieve our savings goals if we were single, but it just might take double the time.

3. We Have Double the Income.  Double the income means that we can spend more on our monthly living expenses.  With dual incomes we can live a more lavish lifestyle if we chose to do so. I am definitely not saying that we should spend all of our disposable income, but if we chose to splurge every now and then the financial impact does is not as devastating as it would be if we were single with only one income.

4. We Have Someone to Rely On. This is a major advantage to being a DINK.  I like knowing that I can rely on my boyfriend  (most of the time) and that there are no little children who are relying on me.  I would absolutely do anything for my boyfriend, I would go out of my way for him, and I don’t mind being inconvenienced (sometimes) for him.  However since he is a grown man it is very rare that he calls in favours.  Unfortunately I cannot say the same for kids.  I would definitely take care of my boyfriend if he needed me to, but I don’t know that I can say that I would have the same commitment for helpless children who constantly need to be watched over and taken care of.  I guess that’s why my boyfriend Nick and I do not have children.

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{ 7 comments… read them below or add one }

1 eemusings April 10, 2012 at 6:22 am

Definitely all of the above. There’s financial security – yet by the same stroke, also flexibility and freedom, which having kids reduces.

2 Modest Money April 10, 2012 at 12:26 pm

This post makes me a bit sad about being out on my own again after being in a 7+ year relationship. All the benefits that you mentioned are great. It’s awesome just to have someone who’s always there for you in good times and bad times. Not having kids does create a lot of flexibility, but my needy cats were almost like having a kid. I may want kids someday, but for now I’m definitely not ready.

3 Mike H April 11, 2012 at 11:50 am

If there’s one thing we have learned about life its that money, not family, is the key to happiness.

4 One thing You Need To Consider April 11, 2012 at 2:37 pm

Every single thing you mention would not be agreed by any man. Every single man in the world knows that he has less money after the girlfriend moves in even after believing that there would be a “Sharing of expenses”, let alone all the other ones.

So, you need to step bacl and ask your partner if he agrees and if he doesn’t you need to admit that your reasons are actually selfish and have nothing to do with being in a partnership, it is the exploitation of the benefits of that partneship at a minimal cost.

5 Kristina April 11, 2012 at 9:51 pm

Men don’t agree that being in a couple provides both emotional and financial stability?

6 Absolutely Not April 12, 2012 at 11:34 am

“Men don’t agree that being in a couple provides both emotional and financial stability?”

No way!!!!! what are you, nuts? men have less money when they split their two incomes with their girlfriend/wife in almost all cases I have ever heard of, perhaps 85-95%.

Emotional? Good Lord, you are naive, men have emotional stability when they don’t have to hear their SO whine and complain about every little thing and complain about the guy’s clothes, drinking, watching too much sports, sleeping too late, just wanting to sit around the house, looking at porn on the internet etc etc. Men do not get into relationships for emotional stability.

7 Very ignorant comments July 29, 2013 at 11:53 am

Wow, the woman that wrote comments 4 and 6 must have made very bad choices in picking her men with comments like those. I would completely agree with the articles author, men do look for that as well, maybe not immature men, but many do…. At least I do and the friends I do have, and in regards to the comments written, I don’t know you and don’t want to, so how can you say every man in the world….??

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