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Being a DINK: A Necessity or A Choice?

Happy Friday my fellow DINKS.  This week we are discussing our DINK status.  We are all in dual income relationships with no kids.  But, is it by choice? Or by necessity?  If your partner was independently wealthy, would you become dependent?

I would like to believe that I would answer no, but when the money hits the fan, I am just not sure what I would do.  Since we all do not have any children (yet) we wouldn’t become “Housewives” or “House Husbands” if our partners suddenly hit the jackpot.  So what would we do?

Maybe some of us would consider having children. I use the term having children instead of the traditional “start a family” because I don’t personally believe that children define a family.  My immediate family right now consists of my boyfriend Nick, my parents, and my younger sister Tara.  She is 26 years old and she is also a DINK.  Just because we don’t have kids doesn’t mean that we aren’t a family.

Maybe some of us would continue working. I am 29 years old and I have been working two jobs since my parents got divorced when I was 18.  I have never known a life without work; therefore, I don’t think I would be able to walk away from employment.  I might be able to walk away from full time employment…but not wave good bye all together.  My career does not define me as a person, but it does sort of give me a sense of being, and belonging.

There is also the question of contribution into the relationship.  If you are not working, and you are not contributing equally into your relationship finances, would you feel undervalued? Men and Women contribute different ways into their relationships. But would chaos break out if the black and white contribution lines of our relationships suddenly became grey?  I have to admit, it may be very tempting to have a nice big house without the expensive mortgage payments!

Here is some financial news that we have rounded up for your reading pleasure this week. Enjoy and Have a Great Weekend!

(Photo by RGallant)

My Insurance Nightmare

calculator a dollar and ice by Art By Steve Johnson.Our car insurance comes due for renewal on July 1, so I decided to shop around and see what other deals are out there on the insurance market.

I think that our current insurance rates are excellent considering that we are young, we bought the car brand new in 2007, and it is also the first car to be registered under my name, it is my boyfriend Nick’s second car.  I also receive a preferred rate on my car insurance since I am staff with the financial institution.

To say that I was disappointed in the insurance industry is to say the least.  My experience while shopping for new car insurance was a nightmare…a fifty three minute nightmare that I couldn’t get out of.  Currently for both Nick and I, we pay $112 a month in car insurance for our 2007 Black, 4 Door, Honda Civic LX.  This includes car replacement costs and costs for a rental car in case of damage or theft.

For my experiment, I shopped for new car insurance with TDCanadaTrust, which is the Canadian equivalent of its US Partner TDBank. The online process took a total of 8 minutes.  Although it does provide an insurance quote at the end of the process, I was still instructed to call for further information and to activate my policy.

I called the 1-800 telephone number for TD Insurance and was advised that my wait time would be “less than 5 minutes”.  So far, my experience was going well…the online process was user friendly, and my wait time on the phone was less than I expected.  The online insurance quote was a little bit higher than my current rate, however, it was comparable at $128 per month.

Once a live insurance agent came onto the phone the whole process started to go downhill.  He started by asking me the same questions that I had just answered during the online process.  He wanted to know absolutely everything about us. This went on for 53 minutes and 25 seconds.

When I say that he wanted to know everything about us I mean absolutely everything. The licensed insurance agent also made comments about our relationship status. After I said the car was registered in both the names of me and my boyfriend he asked how long we have been dating, if we live at the same address, and if we are considered common law spouses. I replied my usual “We have been dating for 10 years and living together for 6.” The agents reply, as it is with many people, was “And you are NOT married?” I wasn’t aware that my marital status (or therefore lack of) was relevant to the cost of our insurance premiums.

There are various discounts available on insurance premiums for any number of different reasons.  Here are a few that came up in my conversation:

  • Recent College Graduate (not applicable to us since I graduated in 2005 and Nick in 2003)
  • Member of a Professional Association (This is applicable since I am a Certified Financial Planner)
  • Your Credit Score (If you have a good credit score you can make monthly payments, otherwise you will have to pay a yearly lump sum premium. Also, you can receive a discounted premium if you have a good credit history)
  • Group Rates (It is important to inquire with your employer whether or not they have preferred group rates with insurance companies and/or financial institutions)

Needless to say I did not switch Insurance companies and I renewed my existing policy.

As insurance premiums are a regular expense it is a good idea to include your insurance payments in your monthly budget.  It is also a good idea to keep your deductible as part of your emergency funds, just in case :)

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(Photo By SteveJohnson)

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