This week I’ve been reflecting back on a post I read on 
I will teach you to be rich. The topic was regarding the classic line, “She should love me for who I am”. Ramit shares about how friends of his are complacent to think that they can stay exactly as they are and still attract a good mate. And, how readers of his have noted concern about changing if they were to become rich.
I’m with Ramit on this one, and feel that mostly folks are afraid of change.
Just stop to consider: If you could have what you want, what would it look like? Even if you feel that is an impossibility at this very moment.
I have two personal example of seemingly impossible change occurring and being quite delighted with the outcome. Both started with a change in perspective.
The first is weight loss. Looking back three years ago I would have felt elated to have lost ten pounds and that it would have been impossible to lose 35, since I was already working out 3-4 times a week and eating relatively well. In short, I lost 35lbs over the course of the next year and have kept it off for the last 2 years with WeightWatchers. Now I can’t imagine myself any other way.
The second is regarding finances. I recall the first time we discussed doing our net worth, just under ten years ago. I was a bit resistant, since I knew how much it would show in the negative. It was a good exercise just to quantify our finances, and I realized that we had to start with where we were at to get where we wanted to be. Fast forward nearly a decade and we just hit the million dollar mark for our net worth.
I am different as a result of both experiences, and for the better I feel. If you want to create positive change in your life, then you need to take action. That is all there is to it.
How do you feel about the effects of change and what is possible?
Best,
Miel
Change is good if it is for the better. Just take a look at the experiences you shared. That alone is proof that change, when geared towards something positive will give a good result. I believe the same can be said if someone wants to attract a good partner.
First, congrats on your personal betterment with your finances AND weight, Miel! This is the second post I’ve read this morning regarding personal change. The drive to constantly be learning about the world around you, and to better oneself is (in my opinion) what makes life worth living. There’s so many things to learn about, and there’s ALWAYS room for personal growth. There’s a saying that I see on fitness pages that I really like: The only person I have to be better than is who I was yesterday. Words to live by!
Congratulations on both accomplishments. Personally, I think the weight loss is harder. I’ve struggled with that myself. It is interesting how I can be so disciplined with my finances yet have such a hard time with weight control.
Thanks Kathy! I definitely is interesting how disciple shows up differently in our lives in different places. I had struggled as well, of felt it was inevitable, but it is incredible what a shift can do. In addition to maintaining good habits, I feel that some of it has been shifting my metabolism as a result of those better habits that has resulted in it being much easier to maintain over time.
Good luck!
Miel