Today’s post goes out to all our new couples out there. If you’re new to Dinks Finance, let me be the first to say WELCOME! Being in a relationship is work (it can be a little or a lot) and it’s not always easy. If anyone tells you differently they’re lying. I’ve been with my boyfriend Nick for 16 years this month and we’ve been living together for 14. We’re not married, we don’t have kids and I write about it all right here.
Someone recently reached out to me on Twitter lately and asked for a quote about what makes a good relationship in one word. My advice was similarities. Of course there are also other qualities like trust and honesty that make a good relationship, but for us similarities are what works.
If you’re thinking about taking the next step in your relationship or if you just started dating someone and are trying to determine if it’s worth your time ask yourself the following questions to see if you’re compatible.
What’s your passion?
Now before we get into it let me say that I don’t think the perfect person exists, however I do believe there is a perfect person for us. It’s very important that you and your potential mate share the same passions. I’m not saying they all have to match but at least one of your top three should match one in their top three.
This is important because your passion is how you spend your free time. If you want to share time with someone you love then you’ll want to be doing something that makes you happy. I love to travel and probably couldn’t be in a relationship with someone who didn’t. I have a cousin who does nothing in life but eat, sleep, work and golf. So obviously he had to find a girlfriend who also loved golf because otherwise they would never see each other.
How do you feel about monogamy?
This seems like an obvious question right? Well it’s not so obvious to me, at least not any more. One of my friends (new friends) just confessed that she’s a member of an exclusive fetish club. Now to be honest I had absolutely no idea what that was. I thought it was a place where people dressed up in Catwoman-like black latex bodysuits and listened to house music until 3 am. However I was wrong.
A members only fetish club is a place where couples watch their spouse swing with other couples. It’s not exactly my scene, but I say as long as you both agree then there’s no harm. Where a relationship gets messy is if one person believes in sharing their love but the other person doesn’t. As long as you’re on the same page swinging could be the answer to a long and happy relationship.
Are they good with money?
This may not be a hot topic for everyone, but it is for me. At least it would be if I wasn’t already in a relationship. Not in a “He better make a lot of money” kind of way, but in a “I can’t be with someone who’s in debt” kind of way.
I would want to learn about my potential husband’s money habits right away. I fix people’s finances all day long at work, I definitely don’t want to be doing it at home.